Understand a narcissist

I recently read a book called “Surrounded by Narcissists” and the way they think I just don’t think that way. I don’t see other people as disposable tools to play games with. No thanks.

They are control freaks and totally evil!

I read a psychology book called Surrounded by Narcissists. They have a whole chapter just on games people play to get in your head. I don’t have time or energy for that bullshit

Even if it’s something I don’t want to hear I can respect someone being honest with me.

Can you give an example?

dominic wrote:of an example of a person that I don't understand or ....

an example of me "being straightforward?" I can do both

An example on how you test the waters of people’s intentions by acting the way you do

So basically you like to take them apart and see what makes them tick. What you get in return is knowledge and something to compare with yourself

Relax I’m not attacking you

From what I read in the book, the narcissist will dehumanize the people around them to justify seeking their own self gratification from those he thinks are weak.

True we look up to god to give ourselves value (a soul) but viewing others as people with souls is something a narcissist can’t do.

I would be so depressed to live in that mindset. There is more to life. It’s a life wasted imo

Do you believe your a narcissist @dominic ?

Oh, I see. Have you talked about this with a psychiatrist?

Improving your character doesn’t come easy

Yeah.I’m not a doctor.

Btw if you do talk to a psychiatrist don’t diagnose yourself

Becoming better is a life long battle most narcissists don’t want help they don’t think they have a problem or don’t care if they do. When I said I don’t understand them I’m from the outside looking in. But everything the narcissist does is for his own gratification like giving compliments to someone with low self esteem it’s seen a a weakness for the narcissist to use that for their own ego.

dominic wrote:Good point Lucy. I agree with you.

If you truly want to become a better person it’s going to require full commitment